Why Me?

Are you stressed, overwhelmed or worried? Are you stuck in your life or in your career? Do you feel guilty about certain things in your life that aren’t in your control? Do you feel that things aren’t going as per your plan? Do you feel that despite working hard, nothing is working out?

If yes, then I would want you to know that none of this is your fault.

From the perspective of karma, many of the things we experience in our present life may be connected to our past actions — actions that we obviously do not remember. And that is understandable. We often tend to forget what we ate for breakfast, so remembering our deeds from a past life is a really big deal.

So, now what?

Neither can you change everything that has already happened, nor can you completely escape a difficult phase. The best thing you can do is “ACCEPT IT.”

Because with acceptance comes the courage to move forward and still do your part of the work. Once you consciously accept that this is just a phase, you stop fighting with reality and start finding the strength to move through it and focus on finding the solution to the problem.

And sometimes, that simple act of acceptance can make you much stronger from within.

There is nobody on this planet who has ever had a life full of only happy and good moments. This even applies to the Divine Power, the Supreme Personality of Godhead, Sri Krishna.

Even when the Divine Power took human form in Dvapara Yuga, He had to make sacrifices and go through difficult situations. Things did not always happen according to what we, as human beings, would consider an ideal situation.

Since His birth, Sri Krishna was separated from His biological parents, Devaki and Vasudeva. Kansa had imprisoned them because of a prophecy that their eighth son, Lord Sri Krishna, would eventually kill him.

Vasudeva carried Krishna across the Yamuna River, where Nanda Baba found Him. From then onwards, Krishna was brought up by Maa Yashoda and Nanda Baba in Vrindavan.

You might wonder — if Krishna was the Supreme Personality of Godhead, why did He not simply free His parents from Kansa?

There is a traditional theological interpretation connecting this to His previous incarnation as Lord Rama.

In the Ram Avatar, Lord Rama accepted fourteen years of exile to the forest because of His father’s promise, following Mother Kaikeyi’s request. His mother, Mata Kaushalya, was deeply disheartened by His separation. According to this traditional interpretation, Lord Rama promised His mother that He would give her the experience of having Him as her son for fourteen years and make up for this separation, which is connected with the relationships He had in Dvapara Yuga — with Maa Yashoda and Devaki Maa.

Whether we look at this through the lens of karma, divine will, or simply as a spiritual lesson, there is something important to understand here:

If even the Supreme Personality of Godhead, in His human form, accepted difficult circumstances and fulfilled His duty, then who are we to constantly crib about every difficult situation in our lives?

Acceptance is the Key

The sooner you accept your situation, the more stress-free you become.

This does not mean that you have to like your situation.

It simply means that you stop wasting your energy fighting something that is currently beyond your control.

But then another question comes:

“If I don’t have control over my situation, should I just stop doing anything?”

Absolutely not.

Sitting idle and telling yourself, “This is a difficult phase, and since I don’t have control over it, I won’t do anything,” will not help you.

Instead, your focus should always be on doing your karma, without becoming attached to the fruitive results, because the outcome is not completely in your hands.

Perform your duties with utmost honesty and faith in the Divine.

This is what will help you get through your tough times. More importantly, it will keep you prepared for the opportunities that will eventually come your way once the difficult phase is over.

Imagine you have been preparing for an opportunity for years. Finally, one day, that opportunity arrives. If you are prepared, you will recognise it, grasp it and make the most of it.

But if you spent your difficult phase doing nothing because you had already convinced yourself that “nothing is going to work anyway,” someone else who prepared during that same difficult phase may take that opportunity.

So, keep this in mind:

Do your work during your difficult times. Do it honestly. Do it sincerely. Do it with faith. But don’t let the outcome decide your worth and peace.

Maybe It Isn’t a “No”

There is yet another angle to this.

Suppose you wanted a 4 BHK apartment. You prayed for it, worked for it and expected it to happen. But God did not give you that.

At that moment, you might feel:

“ Why Me?” or “Why is God not listening to me?”

You may feel that things are not working out the way you wanted them to. But imagine that a few years later, you receive a 10 BHK bungalow.

Would you still complain to God?

“Why did you give me a 10 BHK Bunglow? I had only asked for a 4 BHK Apartment!”

Of course not.

Then why not trust His plan?

The One who is the ultimate creator of this world, the One who sees what we cannot see — how can we assume that every closed door is an injustice being done to us?

Sometimes, what you are planning for may not actually be right for you.

It might hurt you in ways that you cannot see right now.

And maybe that is why that door closed.

Maybe not getting what you wanted at that particular moment was actually protecting you from something you were not aware of.

Some delays are not a “No.”

Sometimes, they are simply a different direction.

Sometimes, what feels like rejection is actually a protection.

And sometimes, what feels like a delay is simply life moving you towards something that is more suitable for you.

We may not understand it today.

But perhaps we don’t always need to.

Perhaps we just need to trust, trust and trust HIM!

Look Back Before You Complain

I want you all to sit quietly for 2 minutes today and think about all those good things that you never expected, but still happened and you felt really blessed.

Think about those moments when you felt completely defeated, but somehow a voice inside you said:

“Let me do it one more time.”

Think about the times when you felt that there was absolutely no chance of anybody helping you, and then, somehow, a ray of hope appeared in some form or the other.

Think about the people who entered your life at exactly the right time.

Think about the opportunities that came when you had almost stopped expecting them.

Think about the problems that you thought would destroy you, but somehow you came out of them stronger.

A lot of these things are blessings that we often forget to acknowledge.

The Divine has helped you in countless ways and in situations that we may not even realise.

And yet, we sometimes tend to blame Him for the slightest things that don’t go according to our plans.

Maybe sometimes, we just need to sit down and express gratitude to the Supreme Personality of Godhead, for everything that He has given us and everything that He is still doing for us.

So, when things don’t work out, instead of saying:

“Why Me?”

maybe try saying:

“Thank You for letting this pass in a small way rather than allowing me to face something much bigger and unimaginable.”

Because we don’t always know what we are being protected from.

Trust His Plan

Life will not always go according to your plan.

There will be delays.

There will be rejections.

There will be situations where you will genuinely wonder why something that you wanted so badly did not happen.

And there will be moments when you will feel that despite doing everything right, nothing is working.

In those moments, remember that acceptance does not mean giving up.

Acceptance means accepting what you cannot control while continuing to do what is in your control.

Work hard.

Do your karma.

Stay honest.

Keep faith.

Prepare yourself.

And let go of the constant need to know exactly how and when everything will turn out.

Maybe you don’t have to understand the entire plan right now.

Maybe you just have to trust the One who can see the entire picture while you can only see one small part of it.

So, the next time life makes you ask,

“Why Me?”

pause for a moment.

Look at how far you have already come.

Remember the things that once seemed impossible but eventually worked out.

Remember the times when help came from places you never expected.

And then try replacing “Why Me?” with:

“He has planned something Bigger for Me”

Be grateful. Trust His plan. And live every moment of your life.

Maybe, sometimes, that is where peace begins.